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Restore Your Honor. Healthy Love Is Attainable.


I know a lot of things have changed in the millennial perspective of love but I want to encourage you to hold on to the principles that are important to you. No matter who or what changes around you that does not mean that what you desire will not come to you. I speak to so many women everyday and it seems as though their belief in love has deflated. Most of them have completely given up and have decided that whatever little piece of intimacy they can get is enough. Nothing fulfilling, just something to be apart of even if it requires them to settle for less.

I believe that toxic love is over glorified and it forces people to believe that this kind of love is all that is available to them but, I believe that I serve a God much bigger than that! I believe that healthy love is attainable and every woman is deserving of a love that doesn't require them to suffer first. There's this sick ideology that leads women to believe that they must prove that they are worthy of a man's love by enduring some of the worst pain and I just don't believe that is true.

For a woman like myself who knows her worth, who knows what she brings to the table, and knows the weight I carry in this earth I refuse to believe that I must allow a man to tear my heart apart just for him to maybe one day piece it back together after he sees me as "worthy". We have to know that before a man even approaches us, we are worthy! You were worthy when you were created and you don't need an outside opinion to validate that.

Picture this, God took his time creating you. He knew you before he formed you in your mothers womb. He breathed life into you, he called you and gave you purpose, he placed you and all of your beauty on this earth and he allowed you to survive everything that came against you. You have done extensive work on yourself, you have your ducks in a row, and you've built yourself up. Then suddenly you allow someone into your space. Someone who doesn't honor the God that created you, someone who doesn't honor the purpose the creator gave to you, and ultimately doesn't honor you. You know you're settling but you stay anyway. What does that now say about the way you honor you, the way you honor your purpose, the way you honor your creator? Don't allow someone else to steal your honor! You don't have to endure cheating, embarrassment, abuse, or disrespect to be considered "worthy" of someone's love. You must know that you are already worthy, with or without them.

Some people will try to make you feel crazy because you're not down with "Netflix and Chill" on the first date but that's okay! You set the standard for how you want to be loved and if that person is not willing to meet the standard or exceed it then certainly he is not the one for you. The netflix thing is a broad example but, you get what I mean. I love my husband and most of all I love the way he loves me but, we would not have made it this far if he wasn't willing to honor the standard I had set for myself. As I got older the standard changed sometimes but, he was always willing to make the necessary adjustments and vice versa. It works because we both want it to. It works because we both honor each other's standards. It works because we both honor each other's growth and we make the necessary adjustments to love each other in a healthy way.

I know this millennial mindset will tell you that the toxic wave is what you should hop on but, Sis swim in the opposite direction! They might make it look cool to be arguing all the time, and bragging about searching his phone, and flexing about the designer bag he brought at the expense of her heartache and embarrassment but that's not the wave. Every time you settle it diminishes your honor, For yourself and your creator.

I pray that God revives your belief in love again. I pray that God restores your confidence and gives you a self love that can't be penetrated by hate. I pray that you can see yourself the way God sees you, the way I see you Queen. I pray that you will no longer settle but, you will rise and walk in your true identity of power and self love. I pray that true love will find you. I pray that you will find a love that will build you and not break you. I pray that your relationships are fulfilling and full of excitement and joy. I pray a 1 corinthians 13:4 love over your life in Jesus name. Amen.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

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